Vidite ovako. To da detetu trebaju muskarac i zena kao roditelji, da bi navodno zdravo odrastalo, naprosto nije tacno, a uzrok toj zabludi je u izopacenim kulturnim obrascima koji vladaju u Srbiji. Naime, ovde i dalje preteze ubedjenje da zene i muskarci po prirodi stvari imaju drugacije uloge u kulturi: muskarac da bude asertivan i stamen, a zena da bude nezna i blaga. Medjutim, takvo vidjenje nije nesto sto je zasnovano na a priori bioloskim cinjenicama, nego je rezultat kulturnog programiranja, odnosno, od malena vas okolina kondicionira da se pridrzavate ustaljene drustvene uloge svog pola. Postoje, sa druge strane, kulture u kojima muskarci i zene imaju iste uloge u drustvu - drugim recima, i muskarci i zene imaju iste vrednosti i socijalno se nagradjuje isto ponasanje sa obe strane.
Iskopiracu vam sada razlike u navedenim modelima kulture. Ovo su dve krajnosti:
Minimum emotional and social role differentiation between the genders / Maximum emotional and social role differentiation between the genders
Men and women should be modest and caring / Men should be and women may be assertive and ambitious
Balance between family and work / Work prevails over family
Sympathy for the weak / Admiration for the strong
Both fathers and mothers deal with facts and feelings / Fathers deal with facts, mothers with feelings
Both boys and girls may cry but neither should fight / Girls cry, boys don’t; boys should fight back, girls shouldn’t fight
Mothers decide on number of children / Fathers decide on family size
Many women in elected political positions / Few women in elected political positions
Religion focuses on fellow human beings / Religion focuses on God or gods
Matter-of-fact attitudes about sexuality; sex is a way of relating / Moralistic attitudes about sexuality; sex is a way of performing
Dakle, u normalnim kulturima, ne postoji nijedan razlog zasto istopolni roditelji ne bi odgajali decu. U Srbiji je to izgleda malo teze.