Ima istine u tome, ali je činjenica da je emotivna inteligencija jedan od najvažnijih aspekata šireg pojma - socijalne inteligencije.
Ko nema emocionalnu inteligenciju da čita emocije kod sebe i drugih, ne može imati ni socijalnu inteligenciju koja podrazumeva sve ono što sam gore naveo.
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Social vs Emotional Intelligence:
While many people confuse these two forms of intelligence for one another, Social Intelligence (SQ) and Emotional Intelligence (EQ) are variedly different. However, in a broader perspective, SQ is much bigger, is the superset which includes EQ under its umbrella.
EQ is defined as the ‘ability to recognize and manage one’s own emotions and those of others.’ SQ is defined as a form of intelligence that develops ‘from experience with people and learning from success and failures in social circumstances and scenarios.’ In a way, SQ can be thought of to be ‘common sense’ or ‘tact.’ One can also infer from the definition that EQ contributes to SQ, thereby becoming vitally important for SQ.
Those of us who have a high SQ can be expected to display some of these characteristics:
· Can talk to almost anyone we come into contact, with ease
· Good listening skills
· Concerned about the way we portray ourselves when around others and strive to strike a balance between not appearing fake and doing everything to appear authentic
· Masters at displaying different social roles even if new to people and situation, without hesitation or hindrance
· Pay attention to what people to – likes and dislikes, conversations they have, things they say
People with high EQ are expected to display some of these characteristics:
· Very self-aware of self – abilities, strengths, drawbacks
· Manage self appropriately even if adverse situations are encountered
· Relationships matter the most and fuss about it
· Listen attentively without being judgmental
· Empathize with others and their situations
· Intrinsically motivated and resilient in the most adverse circumstances
From the above, we can draw a few conclusions. SQ is based more in the ‘future’ – with an idea to figure out the most ideal way to get along with society and those who make it up. EQ, contrastingly, is all about the ‘present,’ and deals primarily with emotions and feelings.
As mentioned earlier, EQ is a subset of SQ. Thus, when a person plugs in his EQ into SQ, his/her social performance goes from great to awesome. We also learn from this as to how incomplete SQ would be without EQ, a prime component. In a world unimaginable without technology, where people skills are paramount, the knowledge and application of SQ and EQ is what separates the ‘aspiring’ from the ‘achievers.’
Fortunately, where Intelligence Quotient (IQ) is set in stone early on in life and does not change much since, SQ and EQ can always be learned, improved, and enhanced at any age, stage, or phase of life.
Of note, there have been several models proposed and used to evaluate SQ and EQ, chiefly by John Mayer, Peter Salovey and David Caruso, and Daniel Goleman. While they might differ in terminology and approach to some extent, they all drive home the point that it is about perceiving the feelings and emotions of self and others, understanding them, using them to interpret situations in many ways, and the ability to steer emotions in self and others.
There are no clear winners between SQ and EQ, or IQ even. While there has been no perfect ratio or proportion prescribed or researched about the three, it has been well documented and agreed that SQ and EQ are more essential to be nurtured for greater success in any aspect of one’s life. This does not mean to say IQ is to be neglected, but since hard skills and its learning are usually restricted to a certain age for a majority of the population, and IQ does not increase significantly even after years of efforts, it can be safely assumed that SQ and EQ fuel one’s success thereon.