Citam (posla radi) neke socioloske studije i naletim na ove pasuse:
In reference to violence in marriage (according to the survey by the Belgrade UNICEF Office (Human Rights in Yugoslavia 1998, 1999), more than three quarters of the women estimated that their relationship with their husbands was harmonious. However, 27% stated that no violence was used in the case of a dispute with their partners, while more than half of them stated that violence was sometimes used, and 16.3% claimed that this happened frequently. Such results raise the issue of what the women in the FRY imply by a "harmonious relationship" and "normal" marriage. This may point to women being reconciled to their subordinate role.
By comparing different regions of ex-Yugoslavia , violence was extremely strong. Everywhere there was dissolution, deconstruction of the "patriarchal order", not yet replaced with anything better. In 85% of cases. husbands were beating their wives often. Expressions like "It is a matter of great pride to beat a woman", or "If you do not beat your wife for 40 days she becomes crazy", indicate domestic violence as "normal" (Erlich, according to Blagojevic, 1996:633).
Ukratko da prevedem, samo 27% Srpkinja ne trpi nasilje od strane partnera, mada vecina izjavljuje da su odnosi sa partnerom harmonicni - iz cega autor zakljucuje da su Srpkinje navikle da budu maltretirane i da ih to vise ne uzbudjuje.
Drugi pasus pominje 85% zena koje muzevi cesto tuku i citira (meni nepoznate) srpske poslovice "stvar je ponosa tuci zenu" i "zena koja nije bijena 40 dana poludi".
Ovi podatci mi se cine neverovatni, tendenciozni i uvredljivi, ali posto sam musko i ne zivim u Srbiji, palo mi je na pamet da pitam vas ovde - dakle, dal' je tako nesto normalna pojava i dal' vas licno (i to cesto) tuku?